FAQ's on Alien Encounters
(Questions Frequently Asked of Deb)

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How have your experiences changed your life?

They have had a tremendous effect on every aspect of my life. Having gone though something like this has really made me much more aware of what goes on around me and what goes on inside me. And that spills over into every other aspect of my life, as well. It has changed my view of my life and myself. Somehow, I am able to see "the bigger picture" when bad things happen and understanding comes much quicker for me. I am less trusting and more questioning of situations and people and I work really hard at not letting myself get paranoid about stuff. I focus on my family. I have somehow developed a new understanding of life. I have come to feel a connection to ALL life and have developed a new respect for it and this planet we live on.

Why did you decide to go public with all this and how has that affected you?

I decided to finally use my real name because I couldn't expect anyone to listen to me or respect what I said if I wasn't even willing to use my real name when I talked about this. Going public with it all has had a positive effect for me. It has exposed me to new people and experiences that I would have otherwise never had the chance to meet and do. That's one positive thing about it all. And that has enriched me. It also helped make me feel more secure about it all. Now, lots of folks know who I am and if I were to suddenly disappear, someone would take notice! And it's given me the opportunity to give back some of the support that I have been so fortunate to have recieved. I know that most folks like me are not so blessed. Of course, I have opened myself up to some attack by die-hard debunkers, but all in all, the response to me and my family has been one of support and understanding. I'm grateful for that and hope that will be the case for others like me, someday. That's one of my goals. I've always said I never expect anyone to believe anything I say because I wouldn't believe it myself if it hadn't happen to me and I DON'T have all the answers, (I just seem to find more questions!) but I do expect a little respect and for someone to simply listen. I'll tell you what I know and you decide what you make of it, you find a comfortable belief level for yourself.

Many abductees have said that they feel like they have some kind of "mission" in life. Do you feel this way?

Yes, actually. I feel as if I am supposed to talk about what I have seen. And I feel as if I am here to help "open up people's eyes, minds and hearts", help people realize there's a lot more to life than meets the eye and help them to realize that there's nothing to be afraid of. That just because we are not the "end all-be all" that doesn't mean it's the end of the world. I don't think of myself as anything special. I just think that for some reason, perhaps because of the experiences I've had, that I was one of the first to "wake up and remember", to realize we are not alone, are not all there is and we have a greater responsibility to ALL life in the universe. That's all. And it's my duty, and the duty of others like me, to help the rest of us reach that same level of understanding.
(Just think of what a different world this would be if we thought of ourselves as "one" striving to better ALL, understanding each others pain and growth.) I REALLY believe that experiences like mine are meant to either make or break the experiencer. If you can't make it through this, you'll never make it through what is to come. That the knowledge of life on other planets and other dimensions is not really that big a deal in the broader scheme of things. As a matter of fact, it should be a "given" at this point in our intellectual, technical evolution. I believe we have to sift through it all, rise above the arcaic notions and fears that control and inhibit us, to find a greater understanding of ourselves, individually and as "one" and a stronger ability to accept and adapt to great changes. That is the mark of a true survivor under ANY circumstances and I believe this is what we must learn to survive as a species. Or should I say, "relearn". We've done it before through the centuries, but have now become way too "comfortable" in our self-imposed, "superior" mind set. We continue to ask the wrong questions, as a species. And until we learn to ask the right ones, we "ain't " goin' nowhere.

What do "they" (the beings you have seen) look like?


I have seen some that are about 4 1/2 to 5 ft. tall. Very thin and frail, grayish pallor, large black eyes that appear to be liquid in composition, picking up every bit of available light in a room and throwing it right back at you. Heads large in proportion to the rest of the body, no hair, no noticeable ears, no noticeable lips but a slit for a mouth and just a pinch of flesh for a nose. Arms are longer than they "should" be. When they move, they seem to glide along rather than walk like we do, yet their movement is rather "jerky" and unnatural. Not frightening or threatening in and of themselves yet the shock of seeing something so "different", something you have absolutely no reference for anywhere in the world, never seems to get better no matter how many times you see it.


Many researchers believe experiences like yours are actually repressed memories of some sexual abuse from early childhood. What's your opinion on this?

I think that could very well answer many of the reports recieved today. But I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT EXPLAINS ALL ABDUCTION REPORTS. Certainly, this was not the case in my family. And how would repressed sexual abuse explain the physical evidence left in so many cases? That COULD NOT explain the mark left in my yard or the damage to the soil and surrounding vegetation, the independent witness's to that night in June of '83, the physical effects felt by my dog and myself, etc... And I think it is horribly unfair to those of us who DON'T fall into that category, to lump us all into something that is easy to dismiss. It just doesn't fit! GET REAL!!!

How are your children doing?


My sons are doing pretty well. Both of them still have a hard time with certain aspects of their experiences. The youngest one still likes to sleep with a light, a radio and a television on and we keep turning them all off! But he's moving ahead and we're all dealing with it. The other boy still doesn't like to talk about things he remembers. I'm working on him. Both are doing good in school and socially, they are pretty much like any other teenagers. They are driving their parents nuts!

How do you deal with having to tell people about what has happened to you in social/relationship settings?

Well, I guess I have been doing a pretty good job of it so far as I have been married a few times since the incident in 1983. I'm honest and up front about everything. I figure if they run, if I scare them off, then it's their lost 'cause I'm really a pretty nice person. I try to let people get to know the WHOLE me before I spring this on them. After all, this is only a PART of who I am. And I never talk about any of this stuff unless I am asked. Contrairy to popular belief, I don't eat, live and breath this stuff. I can't, I'm a mother, I have responsibilities. And I realize how easy it would be to get wrapped up in all this so much that I lose who I really am. I didn't ask for what happened to me to happen, it just did and I have to make the best of a weird situation. I am constantly reminding people of this. Having a sense of humor about all of it helps, too. I never take anything or myself too seriously. I find it a real drag when others do this. After all, nobody REALLY knows the whole truth, no one really has all the answers.

Many researchers and Abductees claim that the aliens have told them who they are, where they are from and why they are here. Have the aliens told you anything like this?

I don't remember whoever they are telling me anything like that. All I can remember from any experience was trying to stay alive and keep breathing! And wondering if I would ever see my family again. (How does mainsteam science expect us to think to grab a "souvenier" when all we can think about is staying alive! That's like asking a Titanic passenger to grab a piece of the iceberg as the ship is going down!) I don't even try to guess what's going on. None of us may be capable of understanding what their motives are or where they are frorm. All we know about is humans and earthly stuff. If they told me where they were from, I have such little knowledge of the universe, I'd never understand what they were telling me. (Carl Sagan couldn't explain it so that I would really understand it!) I guess they already figured that out and therefore, didn't bother. Given all I have seen and remembered, I cannot for the life of me understand how anyone else thinks they have all the answers! Anyone who thinks they do is either fooling themselves or has a really serious problem. I get major "red flags" when I hear other abductees and researchers claim they know where they are from and what they want. Hell, I've "been there" and I don't know! But then again, who am I to judge?

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